Customer Service Vs. Discretion

This has been a great week!  I finished off the week with a super hot session yesterday.  I will write about that another time but for today I want to share a few things about me that you may not know.  I have been in customer service and sales types of positions for most of my life with the exception of 5 years when I was a technician (stage hand).  I have met A LOT of people (I’m turning 40 this month so I’ve been in the work force for about 24 years).  I used to be able to remember everyone surprisingly well.  About 5 or 6 years ago that changed.  I couldn’t remember new people unless I saw them several times or if something very unique happened during our session.

The Challenge

This creates a bit of an awkwardness because I know that for my partners our sessions are almost always unique.  For them, they are often experiencing new things for the first time, oftentimes completely expanding their brain from having had such an intense experience with me.  For me, however, I facilitate and participate in these intense experiences often (usually several times a week), so that does not make it unique for me.  I sometimes wonder if I’ve hurt a partner’s feelings for not having remembered our last session.

The funniest thing that has happened with it is that since I am very honest and consistent, I will say similar things and have similar reactions from one session to the next.  I had one session where my partner did try to get me to remember our last session together with no success.  Then, when we were ready to get started, he took his clothes off very efficiently.  I made a comment saying something like, “Wow, you are ready to go right away!” and he laughed because I had said the exact same thing at the beginning of our last session.

The Explanation

This issue can be explained by something called Dunbar’s Number.

According to wikipedia:

“Dunbar’s number is a theoretical cognitive limit to the number of people with whom one can maintain stable social relationships. These are relationships in which an individual knows who each person is, and how each person relates to every other person. Proponents assert that numbers larger than this generally require more restricted rules, laws, and enforced norms to maintain a stable, cohesive group. No precise value has been proposed for Dunbar’s number, but a commonly cited approximation is 150.”

I feel this issue is both a help and an hindrance.  It is a help because my partners never have to worry about me sharing their personal details.  Not that I ever have, but now I generally can’t since I don’t remember them.  Even though I know it would be better customer service for me to keep notes and records I don’t do that because I would never want those to fall into the wrong hands and expose my clients.  The hindrance is as I’ve explained above – I can’t always remember the details of our play from one session to the next and that can come across as impersonal and uncaring which is the opposite of how I want to be.

The Solution

First and foremost, patience and love.  Not romantic love, but love for each other as fellow human beings.  For me that includes assuming the best of intentions unless otherwise indicated.  Being honest, practicing transparency and having integrity.  It is easy for me to do this because I hold these values very high and operate my life using them to the best of my ability.

The other solution is for those who really like me to see me more often.  Once I see a person several times I usually start to remember them and details about them.  If I see a person once a month or more then I am able to really start developing a relationship and that does feel really good.  The other benefit of repeat sessions is that each session builds on the last as we learn each other’s preferences and boundaries.  Also, trust increases and that allows for more experimentation and exploration during our time together.


I’m considering adding to my offerings.  Please let me know what you think or if you would be interested.  You can email me at or text me at 7022361975

Phone sessions:  $100 for up to 30 minutes.

Webcam sessions:  $180 for up to an hour

Both of these could be recorded for you to enjoy again to add to your erotic library.


Please do let me know if you are in Las Vegas or coming to Las Vegas and would like to experience:

  • full body sensual massage (FBSM)
  • prostate massage
  • a girlfriend experience (GFE)
  • strap-on/pegging
  • receive oral from me (BBBJ) aka cock worship and/or rimming (DATO)
  • lick my pussy (DATY)
  • play with sensation and explore fetishes
    • light bondage
    • face sitting
    • kinky massage/bondassage
    • FemDom
    • role play
    • spanking
    • impact play
    • water sports
    • feminization
    • CBT

We can go super slow and sensual using tantric techniques or have more aggressive, rough sex.

I can come to you (outcall, in-room massage), or you can come to me (incall).

Please take a moment to look at all of my offerings at

Make it a sexy day!
Nikki The Las Vegas Masseuse
7022361975 (text is best – at least at first)


Spring Break Time

Sun Bay
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Today we are leaving on vacation for 1 week. It’s really weird for me…I haven’t taken a true vacation where all I was planning to do was RnR – ever. Always I have gone out of town for some kind of conference or personal growth retreat or maybe to visit family (you know how relaxing that is). I’m not taking my computer or my phone. It’s total unplug time. And my mind is racing – if you’ve ever had an appointment with me you know I love my business and working on it and that I will talk about it with anyone who will listen.

This week I am focusing on being centered and enjoying the moment. Who knows, I might even get a massage for myself:)

WordPress 2010 in review

The stats helper monkeys at mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads Wow.

Crunchy numbers

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A helper monkey made this abstract painting, inspired by your stats.

About 3 million people visit the Taj Mahal every year. This blog was viewed about 25,000 times in 2010. If it were the Taj Mahal, it would take about 3 days for that many people to see it.

In 2010, there were 34 new posts, not bad for the first year! There were 28 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 8mb. That’s about 2 pictures per month.

The busiest day of the year was October 27th with 379 views. The most popular post that day was Service.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were,,,, and

Some visitors came searching, mostly for adventures of a las vegas masseuse, groin massage, las vegas masseuse, prostate massage las vegas, and

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.


Service July 2010


About Me July 2010


7 Things To Know About When Getting A Massage From Me July 2010


About Draping July 2010


How I Am Playful August 2010

The Definitions Of Pleasure


1. the state or feeling of being pleased.

2. enjoyment or satisfaction derived from what is to one’s liking; gratification; delight.

3. worldly or frivolous enjoyment: the pursuit of pleasure.

4. recreation or amusement; diversion; enjoyment: Are you traveling on business or for pleasure?

5. sensual gratification.

6. a cause or source of enjoyment or delight: It was a pleasure to see you.

7. pleasurable quality: the pleasure of his company.

8. one’s will, desire, or choice: to make known one’s pleasure.

–verb (used with object)

9. to give pleasure to; gratify; please.

–verb (used without object)

10. to take pleasure; delight: I pleasure in your company.

11. to seek pleasure, as by taking a holiday.

Could the Adult Swingers Lifestyle Have Stopped Tiger Woods Divorce?

Now that Tiger Woods is divorced I hope he changes his lifestyle. I think that the whole thing could have been avoided if he and his wife had changed their life and their lifestyle!

My husband and I faced divorce in 2008. I had broken our wedding vows in much the same way that Tiger Woods did. I did so because I was afraid to communicate my needs to my husband and therefor I wasn’t getting what I needed. Lucky for us, once we felt we could be honest about what we really wanted (rather than just wanting what we were taught to want) we were able to renegotiate our whole marriage agreement and recreate it to make a lifestyle we really enjoy. Unluckily, it took us hurting each other emotionally to such extremes that we believed we couldn’t cause any more pain and therefor were completely free to talk about our true feelings. Having already faced the ultimate rejection of divorce, the concern of judgement or rejection was lifted.

Now we are in the swinging lifestyle here in Vegas. I have relationships with ladies on the side sometimes – I love women! We play together. When I am in an erotic situation for my work I follow our agreed upon boundaries to the best of my ability. We have a good thing going and I won’t jeopardize it for anything – no amount of money could take the place of what we have.