Building and Sustaining Arousal

I started slow and built up to a quick pace, my hand for the prostate massage deep inside rocking his whole body with each stroke. I continued that fast pace until I felt his arousal build up and then went slow again. I alternated between the 2 paces several times, continually building up his arousal and then allowing for a bit of a plateau.

Using Attunement to Guide My Touch

This is where my attunement becomes a big part of how I work. In addition to paying attention to everything happening in his body, I’m monitoring my own. I notice things like tightness in my womb space and engorgement in my yoni. I am intuitively very sensitive to the arousal happening in another person’s body, but learning to notice and trust these subtle cues is also something I’ve developed over years of practice, beginning with Orgasmic Meditation and really honing it through tantra. Attunement and being able to find resonance with another person have become some of my superpowers.

I change my speed whenever I feel the sensation beginning to wane. When I feel a particular sensation inside myself that feels somewhat aggressive or outward-pushing, that tells me to speed up. I stay at that faster pace until I feel the sensation peak and notice some of my own internal tightness relax. Then I slow down and try to stay on that plateau, stretching out that sensation on the edge of climax for as long as possible. When I feel it begin to dip again, I increase the pace.

Knowing When It’s Time to Let Go

Eventually, I felt we might be maxed out with how much arousal he could hold and switched the pace of my stroke to be more rhythmic and consistent. There’s also a particular kind of fatigue I’ve learned to recognize. It tells me when doing more probably isn’t going to create more sensation or arousal. That’s when I know it’s time to stop building and allow the experience to go where it’s been heading.

The Full Expression of Climax

By the end of the session, the easy conversation we’d started the session with was long gone. I had listened as his relaxed breathing became faster as his arousal climbed, until eventually his breath had turned into moans of pleasure with the full expression of his climax, which left us both speechless.

Feeling the Pelvic Floor Through My Fingertips

When I’m doing methodical internal work like this, it’s almost like I’ve grown eyeballs in the tips of my fingers. I’m visualizing the muscles in my mind while simultaneously feeling for them with my fingertip. If I find tension or notice a reaction from the receiver, I pause and explore. I might try more pressure to see if the tension will release, or explore the spot to see if there is more pleasure available there before moving on.

I can feel areas of tightness and sometimes even twitching in the muscles. Healthy, relaxed tissue tends to soften and give way underneath my fingertips, while tight areas or knots remain hard. When I find one of those spots, I know to slow down. I hold the area with gentle pressure using the pad of my finger, breathe, and give the muscle time to relax and release.

This entire process is extremely pleasurable because not only is the receiver getting yummy anal stimulation, he’s also getting a full pelvic floor release. The pelvic floor works hard all day supporting our bodies, and those muscles can get tense and tight just like anywhere else. As the muscles relax and more energy and sensation can flow, the massage starts feeling better and better.

Gradually Building the Intensity

Next, because I know he enjoys the sensation of stretching, I started to open him up so he could take 2 fingers. The way I do this is by alternating strokes, starting with a stroke using just one finger, then with 2 fingers. To open him up to the 2 fingers, every time I switch to that stroke, I penetrate more deeply until I feel resistance. Then I pull out the 2 and do a full stroke with one finger again. I continue with this alternating stroke until the 2 fingers go in just as easily as the one finger.

Coordinating the Sensations

Once I was sliding 2 fingers all the way into his rosebud, I began stroking his prostate using the pads of both fingers. I focused on small circles going around his entire prostate. I held his cock with my left hand and timed the strokes on his cock to be in unison with the strokes on his prostate.

To be continued… In Part 3, I’ll share how attunement guides my touch and helps me know when to build sensation, when to slow down, and when to simply let the experience unfold.

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A Longtime Client Returns to Las Vegas

I was happy to welcome my client friend of over a decade this weekend for his full body sensual massage. His session included a thorough prostate massage.

I really appreciate the people who have stayed with me for years in my business. One of the marks of a good provider is repeat clients. I love that I have clients who always make sure I’m part of their itinerary when they visit Las Vegas. It’s affirming and reminds me that I’m skilled at what I do. I even have clients who have told me I’ve ruined them for other providers! This is because they’ve been spoiled by my professionalism and skills.

Once he arrived, we talked and caught up a bit before he got on the table. We continued our easy conversation as I began his massage. I meticulously worked each muscle along the backside of his body with my relaxing lavender massage oil. This put him into a deep state of total body relaxation, perfectly prepared for the thorough pelvic floor massage.

As I worked, I could tell he was getting more and more relaxed because the pace of our conversation slowed and there were more pauses. I’m grateful for the conversation because it keeps my mind busy while my body is working, and I like having that emotional or intellectual connection as a foundation.

From Full Body Relaxation to Prostate Massage

When that time came, I put on a glove for the internal work and sat myself behind him in between his legs.  The words fell away completely. It seemed like he was entering into a bliss state.  His relaxed breathing let me know.

I began the anal massage with external strokes – first light strokes to sensually spread the oil all over his butt crack, his groin, and his genitals. I took time to give extra attention to his cock and balls to ensure he was fully aroused before turning my attention almost exclusively to his rosebud.

My Approach to Prostate and Pelvic Floor Massage

Working my index finger into him bit by bit, I got to where I could massage his prostate with the pad of my index finger. Since we had the time, I decided to massage his entire pelvic floor. We continued our easy conversation as I began his massage. I meticulously worked each muscle along the backside of his body with my relaxing lavender massage oil. At each number, I feel into the muscle at that spot and massage from deep to shallow all along that number until I feel satisfied that I have done enough in that area.  I could hear his breathing become more rapid as sensation and arousal began to climb.

To be continued… In Part 2, I’ll share more about how I use touch to explore the pelvic floor, build sensation, and gradually increase the intensity of the prostate massage.

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