Building and Sustaining Arousal
I started slow and built up to a quick pace, my hand for the prostate massage deep inside rocking his whole body with each stroke. I continued that fast pace until I felt his arousal build up and then went slow again. I alternated between the 2 paces several times, continually building up his arousal and then allowing for a bit of a plateau.
Using Attunement to Guide My Touch
This is where my attunement becomes a big part of how I work. In addition to paying attention to everything happening in his body, I’m monitoring my own. I notice things like tightness in my womb space and engorgement in my yoni. I am intuitively very sensitive to the arousal happening in another person’s body, but learning to notice and trust these subtle cues is also something I’ve developed over years of practice, beginning with Orgasmic Meditation and really honing it through tantra. Attunement and being able to find resonance with another person have become some of my superpowers.
I change my speed whenever I feel the sensation beginning to wane. When I feel a particular sensation inside myself that feels somewhat aggressive or outward-pushing, that tells me to speed up. I stay at that faster pace until I feel the sensation peak and notice some of my own internal tightness relax. Then I slow down and try to stay on that plateau, stretching out that sensation on the edge of climax for as long as possible. When I feel it begin to dip again, I increase the pace.
Knowing When It’s Time to Let Go
Eventually, I felt we might be maxed out with how much arousal he could hold and switched the pace of my stroke to be more rhythmic and consistent. There’s also a particular kind of fatigue I’ve learned to recognize. It tells me when doing more probably isn’t going to create more sensation or arousal. That’s when I know it’s time to stop building and allow the experience to go where it’s been heading.
The Full Expression of Climax
By the end of the session, the easy conversation we’d started the session with was long gone. I had listened as his relaxed breathing became faster as his arousal climbed, until eventually his breath had turned into moans of pleasure with the full expression of his climax, which left us both speechless.
