Squirting is something I can do and I enjoy doing but it is good to know in advance if that is something you want to see. I have to make sure I’m well hydrated and rested. I normally try not to see more than one person per day but this is something that definitely can take a lot of energy so I need to know to plan the rest of my daily activity around it.
I learned about female ejaculation at a time in my life when I was wide-eyed and newly liberated sexually. My husband and I were exploring sexually. I was just beginning to teach about sexuality. I don’t remember who first asked me about female ejaculation, but I had never heard of it before and had no idea about it at all. I asked my husband about it, and he showed me a porn star known for ejaculation – Cytherea – and his enthusiasm about it made me sure that I wanted to try it out.
Turns out that was easier said than done. I did a ton of research. I found out about the anatomy and physiology of the vagina on a completely new and deeper level. And I started to try to do it myself.
It was a process that went on about 7 months before I had my first experience. It was during a masturbation session. I had been practicing all the things I had learned, and I must have been aroused enough and strong enough in my pelvic floor that it finally happened. I was completely blown away by the intensity of the sensation, the pleasure, and the sheer amount of fluid that poured from me.
I was surprised that the fluid did not squirt, it was more of a gush. I was relieved that I could do it and that it was as pleasurable as I had hoped it would be. I felt like my whole body opened up and that orgasmic energy was moving through me. Once I went over the edge, and I was completely in my involuntary – I could not have stopped it if I wanted to.
After that first time, I had to try hard to make it happen again. As I did it more frequently, the easier it got. Eventually, I did get to the point where I was squirting and could get a few feet of projection away from my body.
Now I don’t squirt every time I have sex. In fact, I rarely do because it is quite messy. And I’m rarely with a lover who really loves it. To become stimulated enough to ejaculate and to take the space of making the mess is a unique situation. I’m grateful for the experiences I’ve had. They have helped me to own my pleasure at a deeper level than I otherwise would have.