I thought this post blow job interview would be good to share with those who wonder what my blow jobs are like.
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Here is a loose transcription of our discussion:
He had a very good experience. He loved the sensual touch. I started by connecting with touch and breathing. I also did teasing – not going straight to his cock. Most people go straight to the act without having any foreplay or connection. He was very impressed with my skills. He was very pleased. He has had lots of experiences where people think they are doing a great job and he tries to be encouraging, but the experience was lacking. To have me share my skills with him and to be able to come back and verify how well skilled I am – everything was perfect. No teeth. Great lubrication. I was into it, so it felt absolutely amazing. It was by far one of the best he has had.
A couple of good points – no teeth, lots of saliva (lubrication). Besides that, were there any techniques that surprised you or that were new to you?
Yes, I do a thing with my tongue – the swirl. He really liked that. That is my signature move. It was new to him. He was trying to see what I was doing to see what was causing the sensation he was feeling. It felt like I was flipping my tongue. I was doing the swirl and bob.
A lot of guys are just so grateful that someone is putting their mouth on their cock that they will take whatever they can get. A lot of guys are paying attention though.
He guesses there are a lot of women who take pride in it, but then there are some who do it out of obligation. When that is the case, he can tell within the first 30 seconds. Most of the time he does not let women go down on him because, while he does not want to offend anyone, if they start and it’s not good he will take control by moving it through to the next stage to get her off his cock. He is very oral, touchy and hands – on. I ask if he feels like that has become his coping mechanism to deal with negative blow jobs. He says yes, you don’t want them to feel bad. Especially if they are down there and look up and ask if he likes it and if it’s not great that’s a tough situation. So he finds a way to take the lead.
He is also a performer, so he loves to perform and give a good performance. If he can take control of the situation, he can make sure he has a great performance. It’s pleasing to him to see his partner pleased. He wants to leave an impression on his partner.
How did he feel about the end of the session about me asking him if he would like to take over manually. He said 9 out of 10 times he does not cum from blow jobs. He was extremely close because of my skills. He said he could have come in the next 15 minutes or less.
I teach as a giver to do things that are sustainable for the giver’s body. Although I enjoyed everything I did, I could tell I had some fatigue in the muscles on the back of my neck. I could tell I needed to take a step back from what I was doing. I could also tell he was going to need more intense stimulation to get him to the peak than what I could provide, especially considering that I was fatigued. That is why I asked him to stroke himself manually while I licked his balls and played with his asshole.
Did it detract from the whole blowjob? He says no. A lot of girls says it’s not a real blowjob if you use your hands. He suggests doing whatever you need to do to get the job done. Kudos if you can do it with your mouth alone but if you need to use your hands go for it but make sure to have enough saliva or lubrication to make sure you can slide and glide.
A lot of girls talk about their jaw getting sore. It’s usually not a problem for me, but he is well endowed – very girthy – that’s why I took the breaks I did. A lot of girls will power through it and try to get it done no matter what. That’s not good because you want it to be mutually pleasurable. You don’t want to hurt yourself or have lockjaw. That leads to them not wanting to give head as often because they are sore after.
He says one thing that will really get a man there is if you are vocal – moaning, breathing and acting like you love it. Even if you don’t like it, if you act like you love it, then he will have an easier time climaxing.
There is a difference between faking it and turning up the intensity. If you are enjoying it and getting into it, you can turn up the intensity by adding more vocalizations, and you are still not going to be faking it.
The receiver can tell if you are faking it. As the receiver, if you think your partner might be faking their enthusiasm, then the receiver will question if they were good or not as a partner overall. That is different than turning up the intensity and the volume.
He felt like we were both in tune with each other. He felt bad that he didn’t ejaculate from the oral. He feels bad when his partner is asking him if he’s done yet. That is why I put the time limit on our session. We knew going into it how much time we had. This is another thing that stops a lot of girls from giving a blowjob – because they never know how long it is going to take. I teach to take the pressure off by making it goalless and not about the performance.
The goallessness – asking him if he was close and about to cum really helped. Usually, a guy will stretch it out and get it to last as long as it can. So when the giver puts a time on it (like five more minutes), he can work to reach climax during that time. He then mentions a man going down on a woman – that he should stay down on her for as long as it takes.
I talk about how it’s different if you can play the day away. In that case, staying down there for as long as it takes is fine. But if you have other things to do then a time limit is good.
He loves being oral and going down. He tries to make sure the woman cums at least 3x before he even penetrates her. It’s like preheating the oven. If you don’t do that, then you won’t get good results. I feel that’s very impressive. He shares that you come across women who have really beat up their vagina with a vibrator and they are desensitized. Then, when he is down there, they enjoy it and love it, but it takes a long time and a lot of manipulation before they can cum. That is frustrating for him.
I share that while a lot of times it is because a vibrator but that my body usually doesn’t climax until after 45 minutes of clitoral stimulation and that it’s not because of the vibrator since it takes that long even when I do use a vibrator. He thinks he could do better.
I explain that there is a lot of pleasure to be had besides just climax. If the goal is climax, often it pushes the climax further away because I feel performance pressure that I have to cum to make my partner happy. He says he would never want anyone to feel pressure to cum because while he’s in the act he’s in tune with his partner’s body, and he knows that every woman and everybody is different and that every woman wants a different touch. What works for one woman may not work for another. He stays in tune and keyed in to how his partner’s body moves. If he’s doing something, he can feel if she is enjoying it or not. He can adjust according to how she moves. This is how he customizes his oral skills to each individual to make sure they have an amazing time. He can tell – he thinks he can make me cum in 25 or 30 minutes. I tell him it also depends on what we do first.
Climax is a mixture of relaxation and stimulation. If you start with a relaxing massage, then climax is easier.
Is there anything else he’d like to say to people about blowjobs, either giving or receiving? Communication is the most important thing. Preferences, likes and dislikes, if something is happening in the moment where it’s uncomfortable or if they are using teeth – don’t just sit there and bear through it because you don’t want them to stop or get offended. Say what you like. They are not going to know how to get better at it or please you if you don’t tell them. They may just be doing what they did with their last partner, and they may not work for you, but they have no idea. Communicate and tell them if you like it wet or dry. Some women give a very dry blow job, but it makes for a lot of friction. The tongue is very rough, and that is not pleasurable.
Please do let me know if you are in Las Vegas or coming to Las Vegas and would like to experience a full body sensual massage (FBSM), a girlfriend experience (GFE), or receive oral from me (bbbj) aka cock worship. We can go super slow and sensual using tantric massage techniques. I can come to you (outcall, in room massage) or you can come to me (incall).
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Make it a sexy day!
Nikki The Las Vegas Masseuse
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